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When it comes to swinging, open relationships, and other forms of polyamory, you might be forgiven for assuming that these are practices more common in highly populated, urban, coastal cities. But that’s not necessarily the case, according to new research.

Referred to by those in the know as ‘the Lifestyle,’ curiosity in swinging is on the up. A new study by adult company Joy Love Dolls pulled Google search data on 55 swinging-related search terms, such as ‘hookup sites for couples,’ ‘swingers,’ and ‘wife swapping,’ to produce a realistic picture of where interest in ‘the Lifestyle’ lies across the entire country. The search terms were calculated per 100,000 people in each state, so that a place like Wyoming, which has a population of 584,000, could be weighed against California’s 39 million residents. 

Here’s a breakdown of how each state ranks on the swinging-curious meter, and tips on how to find other couples in your state if you want to take the next step.

Which States Are the Most Swinging-Curious?

Delaware has the highest number of swinging-related monthly searches at 1,885, which works out to 183 per 100,000 residents. That’s 71 percent above the national average of 107. The more densely populated Pennsylvania comes in at a very close second, with 182 monthly searches per 100,000 residents, although it actually has the highest number of average monthly searches, with 23,624 across its populace of almost 13 million.

Check out the full rankings below:

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Why Are Couples in Certain States More Curious Than Others?

You’ll notice that eight of the top 10 states in the rankings are on the East Coast, while the bottom five are all plains and mountains states with smaller populations, which makes a certain degree of sense.

Amy Nguyen, sex education expert at Joy Love Dolls, explains that the geographic split in the study could possibly be down to factors like visibility and social acceptance. “You just see more of this lifestyle on the East Coast—more clubs, more events, more of an established scene, and that rubs off on search behavior,” she said. “But just searching for something doesn’t mean someone is taking part in it. A higher search volume could simply mean people are curious about the swinging lifestyle and what it involves.”

According to Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D., Senior Research Fellow at the Kinsey Institute and Intimacy Advisor for the dating app Feeld, attitudes around consensual non-monogamy (and sexuality more broadly) can vary regionally. “Areas with more sexually liberal attitudes may contribute to people feeling freer to explore diverse relationship structures and to openly identify as non-monogamous,” he explains. “In areas where it’s more stigmatized, there are still lots of people who are interested in swinging, but they may be less likely to disclose that information.”

There is some research to back this up. A recent study by Feeld found that there’s a certain “geography” to sexual practices. For example, they found that people in the Pacific Northwest were the kinkiest, which aligns with the public perception that cities like Portland and Seattle have more sexually open cultures.

Related: The Hotwifing Trend Explained: What It Is, Why Couples Try It, and How to Do It Safely

How to Connect With Other Swinging-Curious Couples in Your State

If you’re interested in exploring swinging or connecting with likeminded individuals, it’s easy to start that process online. Dating apps like Feeld cater to people who are interested in non-monogamy and other forms of sexual exploration.

“You might also search for swingers’ organizations in your local area,” says Lehmiller. “These platforms can make it easier to connect with people who share the same interests.”

The most important thing for any couple considering the Lifestyle, Nguyen believes, is actually what happens before they try it. “Both partners need to be on board first,” she explains. “Nobody should go along with it just to keep somebody happy; that never ends well. The healthiest experiences tend to happen when couples talk things through properly first and both partners feel equally comfortable before taking things any further.”

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Clubs get all of the attention, but the right pair of golf shoes is also a key piece of gear for anyone looking to reduce their handicap (or at least spend a few hours on the course every now and then). As it does with pretty much every other kind of athletic footwear, Adidas makes some great golf shoes, so it’s big news that Amazon has one of them on sale with a massive discount.

The Adidas Men’s MC87 Boa Spikeless Golf Shoes are on sale for as little as $44 at Amazon, 78% off their normal $200 price tag. This particular price is good on the size 14 shoes, but plenty of others have great discounts, including $47 for size 10, $49 for size 11, and $80 for size 12, the latter of which is still a 60% discount. All sizes from 7 to 14 are also available as of publishing, so almost everyone should be able to find a new pair of golf shoes. We should also note that these discounts only apply to the Footwear White/Iron Metallic/Core Black colorway and not the full-price Off White/Collegiate Navy, which actually retails for even more, $280, on Amazon. It’s all a bit annoying, but there are very good, very cheap golf shoes to be had for those who prefer spikeless designs.

Adidas Men’s MC87 Boa Spikeless Golf Shoes, $44 (was $200) at Amazon

These shoes have a waterproof leather upper and faux leather insole that keeps feet dry even on soggy greens. Lightstrike cushioning in the insole absorbs shock with every swing, and the Torsion system — a thermoplastic bar embedded in the bottom of the sole designed to increase flexibility and stability simultaneously — helps keep you grounded for more powerful drives even without spikes. The outsoles are made of rubber that provides superior traction, and the look combines the refinement of broguing and a fold-over tongue cover with a more modern, technical silhouette.

What makes these shoes truly unique, however, is the BOA system that’s hiding underneath that tongue. It replaces traditional laces with a crisscrossing network of thinner, more elastic cords. They all come together in a dial that can be turned to loosen or tighten the whole system. That makes micro-adjustments for the perfect fit possible, allowing for a more comfortable, precise fit that makes for better, more comfortable rounds.

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One shopper wrote that these are “great shoes, and the BOA system makes them perfect.” They’re “super comfortable” and “fit beautifully” thanks to that unique system. 

Another customer agreed that these are the “best leather style golf shoes I’ve ever worn,” because they’re both the “most comfortable and classy-looking” pair. “I’ve tried many other big brands and these by far are the most comfortable.”

Deals We’re Loving

• Adidas Men’s Tech Response 3.0 Spikeless Golf Shoes, $49 (was $70) at Amazon
• Adidas Men’s S2G ‘24 Spikeless Leather Golf Shoes, $63 (was $110) at Amazon
• Heydude Wally Golf Essentials Slip-On Shoe, $64 (was $85) at Amazon

The Adidas Men’s MC87 Boa Spikeless Golf Shoes are a beloved pair of golf shoes. Getting a pair for less than $100 is a heck of a deal, so the chance to grab one for as little as $44 is truly remarkable. Do yourself a favor and upgrade to this pair today; your feet and your wallet won’t regret it.

Sharing my version of the amazing Whole Foods red lentil dal soup, which is one of my very favorites. It’s gluten-free, dairy free, and a plant-based source of protein and nutrients. 

Hi friends! How’s the week going so far? I’m in content creation mode for something new I’m working on and doing the usual school and sports scramble with the crew. Fall is officially in the air (jk it’s going to be like 100 here until November) but I like the pretend with a cozy bowl of soup.

I have a mental list of quick grab-and-go meals that I can swoop in a pinch, are healthy, and that I really enjoy. Thankfully, Tucson has a lot of amazing healthy restaurants, which makes it pretty easy. If I find myself in a bind and hangry in between picking up kids and running errands, it’s nice to know I have some faves I can easily pick up.

Whole Foods Red Lentil Dal Soup (copycat recipe)

This is one of my favorite easy healthy pickup meal options. I’ve had this lentil soup so many times this fall season already, I knew I needed to try to recreate it at home. The result is a super hearty, flavorful soup, with lots of nutrients, and is great with a large salad for lunch. It also freezes beautifully.

Here’s the recipe if you’d like to give it a try!

Ingredients:

One yellow onion, diced

2 carrots, peeled and chopped

2 ribs of celery, diced

3-4 cloves of garlic

1 knob of ginger, peeled and grated

2 cups dried red lentils, rinsed

1 can diced tomatoes

32 oz vegetable broth

Juice of 1 lime

Good pinch of cinnamon

1/2 teaspoon cumin

1 teaspoon curry powder

Turmeric

1/2 bag of spinach

1 can coconut milk

Salt and pepper

Instructions:

Step One

In the Instant Pot on saute setting, saute the onion, carrots, garlic, and celery for 2-3 minutes in olive oil, until softened and fragrant. Add in the tomatoes, ginger, lentils, and spices. Season well with salt and pepper.

Step two

Stir in the broth, seal the lid, and cook on soup setting for 20 minutes.

Step three

Allow the pressure to release naturally, and then stir in the lime juice, spinach, and coconut milk. Taste and adjust seasonings before serving. Top with some dairy-free yogurt and cilantro if you’d like!

Note: Allow to cool completely before storing in the fridge or freezer.

Here’s the full recipe. Please let me know if you decide to give it a whirl!

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Have a wonderful day and I’ll see ya soon!

xo

Gina

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Hiiii! Happy Friday! How are you? I hope you’ve had a lovely week. It’s been a busy one over here. Behind the scenes, I’ve been working on a new program (more to come soon), subbed a barre class, and have the wrangling the crew. The girls are busy and thriving with school and their extracurricular activities, Lola is… on her doggy period (joy lol), and the Pilot has been traveling a lot.

We were able to get in a brunch date this week at the Hills, which was amazing. They have great food and a cozy vibe.

The rest of the weekend will be spent poolside, prepping for a content shoot on Monday, NCL event, and my dad’s bday dinner.

It’s time for the weekly Friday Faves roundup! This is where I share some of my favorite finds from the week and around the web. I always love hearing about your faves, too, so please shout out something you’re loving in the comments section below.

(Friendly reminder that affiliate links are included in Friday Faves! Thank you so much for supporting the blog)

8.28 Friday Faves

Fashion, beauty, random:

Girls’ night! The perfect night of wine, chatting, and creme brulee at Fleming’s. The funny thing is that I hated creme brulee for YEARS and now that I’ve been gluten-free for three years and it’s usually one of the only gf desserts on the menu, I’m now a huge fan.

(skirt is old from Anthro but shoes are here!)

Another Olive & June nontoxic gel mani for the win. (It only lasts about 5 days but perfect in a pinch)

Fishing with the cousins. They came over for swimming last weekend and we went fishing at a nearby lake afterwards. It’s apparently stocked with bass, catfish and trout, but we didn’t catch anything. It doesn’t matter; the kids still loved it.

Don’t Say Good Luck on Netflix. I don’t know if I can call it a fave because I cried like a baby, but it was beautiful and well done. Liv loved it, too.

Read, watch, listen:

I’m reading this book after one of the mediums at Miraval recommended it (after our past life regression!) and it’s blowing,my.mind.

On the same note, this was an incredible podcast episode.

Ok friends, who are you cheering for in Dancing with the Stars: the Next Pro? I’m team Adele but think that all of the finalists are insanely talented.

Unpopular trainer opinion.

Fitness, health, and good eats:

Your dog told me it would like some of this healthy homemade dog food.

This fruit tart is always a hit. I need to make one this weekend for the fam!

Interesting study about beta-glucan. 

Thank you so much for stopping by today, friends! Have an amazing weekend and I’ll see ya soon!

xoxo

Gina

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Hiiii! Happy Friday! How are you? What’s going on this weekend?

We’re finally finding our groove with the kiddos back in school and the Pilot’s travel schedule. Liv is back in dance, P is taking a break from basketball to play soccer, and we’re already looking forward to fall break. This week, I’ve been diving back into work stuff (some exciting things on the way!) and also met up with some friends for lunch and juice which was a nice lil treat.

Last weekend, we went to KCON in LA! Our two K Pop fans wanted to go, so we took a trip to LA for the weekend. It was pretty cool: SO many bands performing on various stages, food and beauty vendors, and a huge arena concert featuring the headliners from each day.

The lines to get in were the craziest lines I’ve ever seen. There were thousands of people still lined up when we arrived, which is reason to skip it next year or get the Express Access pass.

Once we got inside, it was a lot of fun. Liv was able to see so many groups she loves, and P enjoyed walking around with us, checking out the vendors, eating all of the tasty food, and popping into the mini concerts throughout the day.

I knew she’d been tired from an early flight, so I only booked two tickets for the arena concert Saturday night. Liv would want to rally and P would want to chill, which was fine with me lol.

The Pilot took Liv to the concert, and we were pleasantly surprised to find out that I accidentally bought VIP executive suite tickets. I was just trying to buy tickets that weren’t in the nosebleed section and got them from a resale site.

After waiting in line for so long earlier in the day, I was so pumped that they were able to walk right in! They also had awesome seats for the concert. While they were watching the show, P and I were back at the hotel in jammies wearing face masks, watched Great British Baking Show Juniors and playing dress to impress on her iPad.

This guy is such a good sport.

Aaaaand check out my K beauty haul from the weekend! About half of this was free and I maybe spent $60 for the rest of it. So many new things to try!

It’s time for the weekly Friday Faves roundup! This is where I share some of my favorite finds from the week and around the web. I always love hearing about your faves, too, so please shout out something you’re loving in the comments section below.

(Friendly reminder that affiliate links are included in Friday Faves! Thank you so much for supporting the blog)

8.21 Friday Faves

Fashion, beauty, random:

Wore this to meet a friend for bfast. Looooove all things Polo bear. (This top is sold out but there’s a similar one here!)

Another shirtdress moment The fabric is amazing on this one and true to size.

This week we celebrated our 19th anniversary. We went to dinner at the Flying V and it was perfection. I feel like we’ve lived so many lifetimes together since the early days (and I’ve been blogging for almost all of it!) and and grateful and proud of the life we’ve built together.

New HigherDOSE red light shower filter. We’re remodeling the bathroom after the mold remediation and I told them I wasn’t super picky about the design; I just want to include this shower head! It’s HUGE and has 10-step filtration, plus the benefits of red light. I can’t wait to take a shower in the dark with the red light going. Bliss. Check it out here and use FITNESSISTA15 sitewide.

Read, watch, listen:

I wanted to invite you to join me over on Substack. I’ve been posting over here for the past few months and am loving it! If you’d like to check out some of my posts over there (like what the Miraval psychic told me, my past life regression, and identity crisis) meet me over here. I’d love to see ya

7 ways to make back to school fun.

Are you watching Dancing with the Stars: The Next Pro? I’m so glad I started watching it a few weeks ago and it’s starting to get exciting. I can’t wait to see who wins and am definitely team Adele.

The magic of following joy.

I think we need to plan a spring London trip.

Fitness, health, and good eats:

P and I got Doordash while the Pilot and Liv went to KCON early Sunday morning. (We slept in and wanted pancakes.) It was my first time trying Honey Hi and it was sooooo good. I can’t wait to try it again and am so glad I also ordered half a loaf of gf sourdough to bring home in my suitcase.

Power of a good multivitamin. This is the one I use and they have a new flavor!

Thank you so much for stopping by today, friends! Have an amazing weekend and I’ll see ya soon!

xoxo

Gina

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Over the course of his illustrious acting career, Paul Newman starred in eight Westerns and while Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid is his most well-known entry, it’s not his highest-rated film of the genre.

That honor belongs to Hombre, which was the sixth and final time he was directed by Martin Ritt after the duo paired together on The Long, Hot Summer; Paris Blues; Hemingway’s Adventures of a Young Man; Hud; and The Outrage.

“John Russell finds that the world is not so welcoming when he returns to his Arizona hometown to collect his inheritance. A white man raised by American Indians, Russell is subjected to numerous instances of racism when people discover his background,” reads the synopsis of the film.

“When the stagecoach Russell is riding in is held up by a gang run by one of the scheming passengers, Cicero Grimes, it falls to Russell to defend the passengers — the very people who have dismissed and insulted him.”

While it’s beloved by fans, Newman admitted he couldn’t watch Hombre or any other movie he made before 1985.

“I cannot bear to look at a film that I made before 1990,” he explained. “Maybe 1985. There’s no sense even trying to explain it. I really just can’t watch myself. I see all the machinery at work, and it just drives me nuts, so I don’t look at anything.”

‘Hombre’ Named Among the Greatest Westerns of All Time

Hombre sits near the top of several lists naming the greatest Westerns of all time, including the IMDb list, which placed it at No. 43.

Studio Binder ranked Hombre at No. 28, lauding Newman’s performance. “The writing and acting of the film were commended, with Newman’s performance being noted for giving John rich characterization despite a limited amount of dialogue,” it said.

ScreenRant ranked Hombre as his second-best Western behind Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid.

Meanwhile, Hombre‘s 94% on Rotten Tomatoes from critics remains the best score he’s ever received on a Western film.

Related: 1972 Robert Redford Classic, Turned Down by Clint Eastwood, Named One of the Greatest Westerns of All Time

The Detroit Lions are bringing in veteran linebacker Devin White. The move adds much-needed depth to the defense and a veteran presence. The signing should help Detroit improve after a disappointing season in which the Lions went from the 7th-ranked defense in 2024 to the 22nd in 2025. 

White was selected 5th overall in the 2019 draft out of LSU after an incredible college career. During his time at LSU, he was named to the SEC All-Freshman Team, made the First-team All-SEC twice, was a Second-team All-American in 2017, a Consensus All-American in 2018, and won the Butkus award given out to the nation’s top linebacker in 2018. 

His dominance carried over to the pros as he was named to the Pro Football Writers of America All-Rookie Team in 2019. He is a one-time Pro Bowler, getting the nod in 2021, was named a Second-Team All-Pro in 2020, and was a part of the Buccaneers’ Super Bowl LV title team. 

After spending the first 5 seasons of his career in Tampa Bay, White signed with the Philadelphia Eagles on a one-year $7.5 million deal, but never appeared in a game before he was released in October of 2024. He signed with the Houston Texans but only appeared in seven games, recording 19 tackles. He had a bounce-back year last season with the Las Vegas Raiders, recording 174 tackles, including 11 tackles for loss and 2.5 sacks. 

Now, White will try to continue to revitalize his career with a Lions team that has Super Bowl aspirations. Detroit was 15-2 in 2024 and looked like one of the best teams in the league, but lost in the Divisional round to the Washington Commanders. The 2025 season was not as kind to the Dan Campbell-led squad, as they went 9-8 and missed the playoffs, in part due to their regression on defense.

Tragic news struck the entertainment world on Saturday evening when reports revealed that actor Vincent Pastore had died at the age of 80.

Pastore was best known for his role on the iconic TV series The Sopranos, where he became one of the show’s most recognizable characters.

One of Pastore’s longtime friends, Stephen Villano, found him dead at his Bronx residence on Saturday after he had not heard from him in several days. His cause of death remains unknown and is currently being investigated by the NYPD.

Vincent Pastore has sadly passed away at the age of 80. pic.twitter.com/ooUiz5euIs

— DiscussingFilm (@DiscussingFilm) August 1, 2026

Pastore’s Film Career

While Pastore’s role on The Sopranos remains his most famous, he built an extensive career as a character actor, particularly in mob-related films. He appeared in roughly 30 episodes across the show’s seven seasons and also featured in films such as Goodfellas, Carlito’s Way, Witness to the Mob, and Men of Respect.

Pastore also appeared in Gotti, Revolver, and explored comedy roles in films including The Jerky Boys: The Movie, Mickey Blue Eyes, Shark Tale, and Made.

Pastore’s Family Life

Pastore was born in the Bronx and raised in New Rochelle, New York. His father, John Pastore, was a well-respected figure in the neighborhood and worked as a bookie.

He was previously married to Nancy Berke before the couple later divorced, though the exact timeline of their marriage remains private.

The couple had one daughter together, Renee, and despite their divorce, Pastore remained extremely close with his ex-wife and even developed a friendship with her next husband.

Nancy and Renee remained central figures in Pastore’s life and are among those he leaves behind.

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Why We Love This Deal

Camp furniture has come a long way since tree stumps and rocks. These days, outdoor brands make ultralight, ultra-packable chairs and benches that can break down and even fit into backpacking packs. The main issue is that they’re not always very comfortable. This “glamping” chair at Walmart is another story, though—it reclines, has a tray, and brings relaxation back to the outdoors.

The $70 Betcozy Zero Gravity Outdoor Chair is now just $30 at Walmart. The gray and black chairs have the best discount, but the blue chair is also on sale for $42. People also really seem to love it—hundreds are selling every day, likely as people plan out their next camping or beach trips.

Betcozy Zero Gravity Outdoor Chair, From $30 (was $70) at Walmart

What Shoppers Should Know

• Frame: Alloy steel, triangular support structure
• Fabric: Waterproof, tear-resistant nylon
• Weight Capacity: 300 lbs
• Best For: Poolside, backyard, camping, beach

The “zero-gravity” design here uses a locking recline system that makes you feel weightless instead of just tilting back. And at just around 15 pounds with a fold-flat design, it’s light enough to toss in a trunk, but keep in mind that it’s definitely heavier than those cheap CVS camping chairs. The cup holder tray and pillow round it out for actual lounging, and the waterproof nylon means pool and beach use won’t be a problem. 

Comparable zero-gravity recliners with this kind of weight capacity and lockable recline usually run $60 to $100 on sale, putting this below the category average. And at just $30 on sale, it’s not much more than what a basic camping chair costs and is well worth that extra $10 or $20. 

Related: Walmart Sells a Plush $48 Glamping Mattress That’s Double Wide and 4 Inches Thick

What Shoppers Are Saying

If you’re not the biggest fan of flimsy camping chairs, this is a huge step up comfort-wise, and won’t give you back pain: “I am finally able to lie in the sun without any back pain.” A second shopper wrote, “They’re just as good as the ones I paid a fortune for.”

Another helpful shopper said, “The sturdy frame feels secure, and the padded fabric is surprisingly soft and comfortable.” A second reviewer wrote, “You can use them for just about anything.”

If thin camping chairs aren’t doing it for you, Betcozy’s Zero Gravity Outdoor Chair is a bargain at $30. Considering how fast that last comfy chair sold out, you should get one of these soon if you’re interested. 

Also Check Out

• NiamVelo Zero Gravity Chair Folding Lounge Chair, $29 (was $45) at Walmart
• Pnkkodw Zero Gravity Chair, From $72 (was $119) at Walmart
• Hearth & Harbor Oversized Zero Gravity Chair, From $85 (was $150) at Walmart

Mike Smith is approaching 60 with no plans to surrender the saddle—or the strength required to control a 1,200-pound Thoroughbred at full speed.

The Hall of Fame jockey, who celebrates his milestone birthday Aug. 10, is competing during Del Mar’s 2026 summer meet against riders less than half his age. Smith already owns a Triple Crown, a record 27 Breeders’ Cup victories and a record-extending 29 Kentucky Derby starts, according to America’s Best Racing.

His staying power is not built on some elaborate longevity hack. It comes from training five days a week and rarely giving himself an easy out.

Mike Smith Trains for Hours After Leaving the Saddle

Smith told Men’s Journal that he begins around 10 a.m. with a personal trainer—but usually arrives 30 minutes early for light cardio on a treadmill, bike or elliptical.

After an hour of resistance training, he typically runs three to five miles. He follows that schedule Monday through Friday, even while riding horses in morning workouts and competing in as many as seven races a day.

“I do make sure to get strength training in five days a week,” Smith says. “I don’t lift as heavy as I used to.”

Instead, he now places greater emphasis on stamina, balance and core strength. That adjustment aligns with a National Strength and Conditioning Association position statement, which concluded that properly designed resistance training can help older adults preserve muscle, mobility, independence and psychological well-being.

Related: Top Trainers Are Quietly Becoming Longevity Coaches, and It’s Changing Fitness for Good

Why Consistency Matters More Than Lifting Heavier

Smith’s approach has changed with age, but his commitment has not. He still challenges himself while adjusting the intensity to remain healthy throughout a demanding season.

The racetrack provides additional mental conditioning. Horses can suddenly move in an unexpected direction, forcing jockeys to react instantly while maintaining balance and control.

“You’re always on your toes, and that’s what keeps you really sharp,” Smith says.

Nutrition requires equal discipline. Smith eats two carefully controlled meals on days off and increases his running if he overeats. He acknowledges that jockeys sometimes compromise strength while making weight and warns that aggressive practices involving dehydration, saunas or plastic clothing require caution.

Ultimately, Smith believes longevity comes from turning healthy choices into routine.

“I’m as strong and as fast as I can be because of making it a way of life,” he says. “I’m able to compete at the highest level at my age because of that.”

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