Happiness Advice to Take You Through the Rest of the Year

Summertime, and the living is arguably easier. What is it about a little sunshine that makes this the happiest time of year and, more importantly, how to bottle that feeling for the other nine months?

Bare Necessities looked into the science behind summer’s golden touch. We’re here to share ideas you can draw on when fall and winter start getting you down. Bookmark this for when you need it in the back half of the year!

Embrace JOMO

Fear of missing out (FOMO) is old news. Despite what some blogger’s perfect Instagram feed suggests, there’s no way to do, be or have it all. This summer, it’s all about embracing the joy of missing out (JOMO). That means taking a digital detox. The more we disconnect from the tiny slot machines in our pockets, the better our state of mind. Sure, that can feel a lot easier to do in the summer, when engaging alternatives abound, but you can consciously bring the idea with you into fall. When you’re focused on doing you, regardless of what others are doing, you’re closer to true happiness.

Schedule more fun

Fun comes obscenely freely in the summer…there’s always something to do! The rest of the year, the daily grind can get the best of you. But not every day can be an amusement park or a vacation. To keep life’s annoyances from crowding out the delightful stuff, prioritize things that make you feel good by putting time on your calendar—daily, weekly or monthly—to do something you enjoy. Then, no matter what comes up, do not cancel on yourself! Make it a point to catch a movie while it’s in the theater, go out on a Tuesday night to see a friend’s band play or haul your tired self to hot yoga. Committing to relishing the little moments is as important as anything you do for your health.

Say yes before saying no

Just as summer gives you permission to live a little—jump off the side of the boat! start a bonfire! eat the ice cream!—any time’s a good excuse to break with the script and do things that you ordinarily wouldn’t. Novelty is the spice of life, as our sexy lingerie certainly proves.

Spend a little less

Simple pleasures go a long way. Right now, maybe that means catching a sunset, watching fireflies or going to the farmer’s market. Year-round, it can mean keeping a gratitude journal, practicing hygge or sensory meditation to help you slow down, relax and appreciate what’s going right without wrestling your mind into blank submission. Close your eyes and sit or lie comfortably, then run through your senses of sight, hearing, touch, taste and smell to situate yourself in the moment. Or, you know, buy yourself the $5 latte. Whatever works.

Get into nature

Spending time outdoors is critical, from improving short-term memory to staving off anxiety and depression. And the cold sure doesn’t stop the people of Finland, Norway or Denmark, the happiest nations in the world, from communing with nature. Find what works for you—hiking, snowshoeing, skiing or a quick walk in the brisk air—suit up in the optimal activewear and do it as much as you can.

Go to sleep

Not unlike getting outside, a good night’s sleep pays so many dividends, it’s hardly worth the column inches defending the premise. To replicate that languid summer sleep, take baby steps: Go to bed a few minutes earlier. Sleep in by a few (early morning sleep is key to REM). Keep to a pretty consistent schedule. Take a little nap. Upgrade your pajamas. It’s not being lazy; it’s recharging the battery otherwise known as your brain.

Read a book

Reading is the jam, but other than on summer vacation, who has the time? Well, it’s time to make time. It lowers stress. It transports you somewhere else, on the cheap, without leaving the house. Book lovers are less depressed. You’ll be part of the cultural conversation. Add in a social component by starting a book club with your friends. Listening to audiobooks on the daily also counts.

Take an 8-day vacation

Yes, summer is prime time for getting away, but unless you’re a teacher or an accountant, you can pretty much go whenever. So do that. Use up your days! Grab your greatest swimsuits and go lie on a beach someplace tropical when the temperature dips at home. The ideal length for a trip is scientifically proven to be just north of a week. Eight days equals peak happiness: long enough to experience something new, short enough not to miss home and feel like you’re falling behind on life.

Go to more concerts

You don’t have to wait for Beyoncé or Taylor Swift to come back around on an amphitheater tour; amazing shows happen all year long. Regularly listening to live music is, happily, associated with living longer. That’s why we asked some of our favorite performers from this year’s Newport Folk Festival, which we checked out last month, what happiness advice they live by:

Courtney Marie Andrews (Photo: Laura E. Partain)

COURTNEY MARIE ANDREWS
What boosts your mood when you need it most?
Writing is key to uplifting my mood. It’s cathartic and allows me to process how or why I’m feeling a certain way. Playing new songs uplifts me because they’re the rawest form of what I’ve been thinking or feeling. They help me stay in tune with my identity and what’s going on internally. It feels triumphant when you finish a song and play it for the first time. It allows me to be proud of myself. I’m also an aimless walker. When I’m feeling depressed, a long walk is great for gaining clarity.

What song of yours would give us a lift?
I suggest the title track to my new record, “May Your Kindness Remain.”

How did you know you’d found your calling? How’d you find the courage to go your own way?
I’ve known since I could talk that I wanted to write and perform. I’m lucky that I’ve had my whole life to work on and for something that I love. Honestly, I think I had dumb courage before I had talent. Courage led me here, and let me improve my craft. I grew up with a single mother working two jobs, so it was important that I take care of myself and be brave.

Lucius (Photo: Petecia Le Fawnhawk)

HOLLY LAESSIG OF LUCIUS
What boosts your mood when you need it most?
The smell of jasmine, David Bowie’s “The Laughing Gnome,” the Eagles’ “Take it Easy,” lili_hayes on Instagram, or a big glass boot full of Hefeweizen.

What song of yours would give us a lift?
Part of falling in love with an artist is discovering them and taking part in that relationship. Try a couple from each record (Wildewoman, Good Grief and Nudes) and, if you like what you hear, keep digging.

How did you know you’d found your calling? How’d you find the courage to go your own way?
There were moments: deciding to play piano, to pursue singing, then songwriting, then making a band. I felt I didn’t have a choice. The only movement available to me was forward. It was a given for us both, and we never thought twice. In that way, it had to work.

Nicole Atkins (Photo: Anna Webber)

NICOLE ATKINS
What boosts your mood when you need it most?
Getting outside and walking with music in my headphones. My three favorite mood-boosters are “Rocksteady” from Aretha Franklin, “Goin’ Down” from Allen Toussaint and “Cherry” from Neil Diamond. They can make walking through a blizzard feel sunny. When I’m stressed, I walk it out until I feel better. It always helps. Even if I’ve done nothing for the day or had a really stressful brain day, I can take a walk on the boardwalk down by the ocean and feel full.

What song of yours would give us a lift?
If you like sad songs, play “A Little Crazy,” and if you wanna shake your butt, put on “Darkness Falls So Quiet.”

How did you know you’d found your calling? How’d you find the courage to go your own way?
When I was 19, the restaurant I was working at on the Jersey Shore heard me singing in the stockroom. They ended up letting me play there every Thursday. From there on out, I knew I wanted to do this forever. Be kind with yourself. Nothing’s more fun than weird! There is no graduation from your work and passion. It’s the arch of your life; don’t rush it.

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Jolloff Etcetera….

A great conversation starter is the restaurant “jollof Ecetera.” This tiny but large shack is located in Annapolis Maryland. You know the saying “good things come in small packages?” Jolloff Ecetera is one of those good things.

The fact that I have nothing plenty to say about this place is because they “killed” everything with their awesome food. Have you ever tasted a meal so good, you constantly replay how you ate it and it’s taste in your mouth?

I walked into Jollof Ecetera not knowing what to expect. It looks like a “to go” kind of restaurant. What that means is that, you simply make an order and pick up your food or have it delivered once it’s prepared.

Even as small as the space for the restaurant is, there are a few chairs and tables for patrons who wish to dine in. I dined in.

Ambiance: There is really none but for the soft gospel music playing from the tv set. The place was crowded with people and it just seemed so little to navigate through.

Make over: Jolloff Ecetera needs a total make over. a least some new chairs with tables that fit the space. Nothing more or less.

Apart from the ambiance and the need for a make over, I liked the little notes that sat on the table. The notes had scriptures on them. Oh, I forgot to tell you that the restaurant is owned by a Christian who doesn’t ever settle. He doesn’t even serve alcohol in his restaurant. Drink your Schweppes or water and enjoy your meal or nothing.

One thing I liked about Jolloff ecetera, was the sink they had in the restaurant for patrons to wash their hands; and beside the sink was a motion censored trash bin. A great feature if you’re a germaphobe.

The good stuff: Now to the good stuff. The food! With all the delicious photos on their Instagram’s page @jolloffetcetera, it was even better in person. I ordered a plate of rice and fish stew to make up for all the meat from the previous day. Along with the rice, I ordered a side of spinach and plantains. My hosts ordered Eba, onugbu and vegetable soups respectively.

Before our food was brought to the table, the restaurant owner gave my hosts and I a complimentary bowl of Chinchin. A little stale it was but it was really good. Our food came without a waste of time and the portions were huge. Mere looking at my bowl and that of my hosts, I was full. I didn’t even know how to start spooning the stew into the rice. And the fish, it filled the bowl and eating it was orgasmic to experience. The side of spinach, it was melt in your mouth good. I am here writing and trying to describe how delicious my food was, but I can’t even begin to find the words. My hosts ate theirs so quickly, you could tell they enjoyed their food with the way they cleaned their bowls. There were no traces of eba or soup in sight ? And with a cool bottle of Schweppes, everything hit the spot.

food for thought: Sometimes, it’s not always about having nice restaurant furniture, it’s about having mind blowing meals, meals that would make you not want to eat anything else. Now, if one restaurant can fix their furnishing, have working and clean bathrooms and cook really good food like Jolloff Etcetera.

5 Sisters And None Extra….

In the beautiful DMV area is the restaurant 5 sisters that caters to the gastronomical needs of the African people who live around the area. When you hear the word “5 sisters,” the first question that comes to mind is “is it a music group of some sort?” Well, I’m sorry to disappoint you, but it’s an African restaurant owned by a Cameroonian lady with 5 daughters. I didn’t get the full history but I know they are 5 and they even own a boutique too.

Walking into the restaurant, it was like walking into a club in broad day light. Not that people don’t club during the day, but na those day time clubbers sabi. I have been to restaurants that double as event halls or clubs but this one was lit from the afternoon when my host and I got there until we left at almost midnight. I actually thought there was a party going on because of the loud music but I guess the DJ was just too excited to be at work that day. While this restaurant seems like a great place to sit and have “life changing” conversations, I don’t want to listen to very loud music in the early evening, shouting on the top of my lungs while trying to eat and have a “meaningful” conversation with my friends.

The Ambiance at the 5 sisters restaurant was a little mixed and confusing. They had ‘bluish’ disco lights on in the night time and close to the bar with the restaurant part on both ends of the hall; the Dj and his loud jockey set was right by the door. I can’t explain the whole restaurant’s set up, but the entire character of the place screamed “make me over!”

Now to the good stuff! The drinks! My favorite drink in the world is “sex on the beach.” If you don’t have that, give me some Tequila silver with salt and lime and I’m good to go. My host ordered a glass of sex on the beach for me and when I received my drink from Riley the bar tender, it didn’t quite look the part as he pointed that they were out of an ingredient, but for some reason he made it work and I couldn’t even tell the difference. If Riley hadn’t told me of the missing ingredient, I wouldn’t have been able to distinguish what was missing. He worked with what he had and created something so tastily beautiful that I couldn’t even tell the difference.

Don’t mess up a good meal: If there’s one thing you shouldn’t mess up as a restaurant that caters to Africans; especially West Africans, it is Suya. Mba, you can make your Ogbono soup a little watery and add a little too much oil in your Egusi soup, but the small chop that is suya must NEVER be tampered with. I have two rules to follow when making suya regardless of the cut of meat you use.

Rule1. Always cut out the fat before/after grilling. I understand that cooking with a little fat gives food/meat a little flavor, but I don’t want my food drowned in it. And no, I’m not on the Keto diet.

Rule2. If you catch yourself making Suya, always have some suya pepper or Yaji! That’s what makes it suya. I don’t want to eat chopped steak with onions and peppered sauce as Suya. Don’t play with my Suya. If your Mai Suya is a little confused or doesn’t know how to make suya, Google is your friend. There are hundreds of Nigerian/West African food blogs with Suya recipes and basic Yaji recipes which you can tweak to fit your customers.

Basically, we ordered for some Suya and what came to the table was chopped steak with sweet onions, fried plantains and peppered sauce. If I wanted Asun, I for tell you na. I’m not someone who eats a lot of meat, so when I order anything that looks like meat, it better be good like that goat meat from Kings way. Now that’s another story to tell ? The plantain was an added plus but the Suya kind of spoilt it for me.

Asun: My host’s friends ordered peppered goat meat(Asun) and Nkwobi and what came to our table were two bowls full of bones; not literally, but that bowl of Asun had more bones than the goat that was killed for it’s purpose. When the waitress came to the table with the bowl of Asun, I looked at the bowl and I had nothing to say. I don’t want to go into any restaurant to wrestle with bones. While I understand that you have to make your money, you don’t have to serve your patrons a bowl full of bones. Peel out as much of the bones as you can and just price the dish a little more. Let the Asun be worth traveling for. When you pay attention to detail in your kitchen and you make good food, people will come by the droves and they will eat to their fill and even recommend your restaurant to their friends. Ask the owners of Fo go De Chao how they have survived the restaurant business with no bones ?

Nkwobi….Two meals I take personal when not done right is Isi ewu and Nkwobi. Nkwobi is pretty much a casserole made with cow foot. Yes, the cow foot is boney, but there’s plenty of flesh in it too and it takes just a minute to debone the meat after cooking until soft. I don’t know how my hosts friends ate those bones. Just like the Asun, the Nkwobi was bony and I guess the Guinness they were drinking kind of helped them adjust to the bony situation.

While I’m not sure how African restaurants prepare their oil for Abacha, Nkwobi and Isi ewu, there are healthier options used these days instead of potash. You could thicken your oil with palm nut ash, baking soda and cold water. With my favorite being the palm nut ash and baking soda, the cold water option comes in very handy. Some people say the oil breaks down when they use the healthier options. I’d advice that when using the options I have listed, it would help to let your meat cool down before mixing with the oil. this way, your oil stays thick and your belly thanks you.

Food for thought: I love African food, especially when it is done right. There is really nothing to it when it is your passion; knowing that you want your customers to ultimately enjoy their African food experience. These days people would rather pay for good service and comfort. Some days, I like to shop at Walmart, other days, I prefer Publix because you get great service at Publix. If I cannot find something, there is always someone to help. When my bags are too heavy to carry out side, there’s always someone to help. Running a business is not always about the money. It is sometimes about the length you go to please your patrons; which keeps them coming back and adds money to your pocket.

 

World Breastfeeding Awareness Week: Advice from Staffers Who Have Been There

Though it seems like it should be the most natural thing in the world, nursing a baby can feel like anything but. These days, when something as benign as feeding your infant is so fraught (politicized, even), it’s reassuring to hear a few wise words from women who have been there, lived that.

In honor of World Breastfeeding Awareness Week and National Breastfeeding Month, we present the good, the bad and the in-between about what it’s really like to sustain a tiny human with your own two boobs. Eight Bare Necessities staffers looked back—some many years, some to this morning—to bring you their best, most honest breastfeeding real talk. File all this knowledge under “things nobody ever tells you….”

Heather and Emma

Heather, premium brands buyer and mom of Vivian, 4, and Emma, 5 months
How long did you nurse?  Four months. I would have continued if working from home was possible. Now I’m just nursing before and after work.

How did you make the decision? It’s ingrained that breast is best, so there were no other options. The minute the lactation nurse walks through the door, you’re made to feel guilty if you even want to consider formula.

What’s it like? I pumped and nursed with my first, to no set schedule, and weaned after 2.5 months. This time, I pumped mainly and nursed occasionally. I hated pumping—it’s tedious—but it’s satisfying knowing exactly how much milk your child is getting. It was tough to plan anything because life revolved around that pump. I was doing power pumps every other day the first month, which takes an hour; on top of that, I was eating and drinking lactation foods all day long.

What did nursing do to you physically and emotionally? I would get this terrible feeling of being frightened at night; a wave of anxiety would rush through me. At first I thought, I’m just hearing noises; don’t be a scaredy-cat. But it happened every night and into the morning until I pumped. One night I Googled anxiety for the first few minutes of pumping. Can you believe it’s an actual condition called Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex? It’s a glitch in the mechanism that allows milk to flow that can cause negative emotions at letdown. I wish people talked about this because I felt so alone explaining it. I also have to mention the loss of breast tissue after breastfeeding. I went from a G-cup to an E. They turn into pancakes.

Any memorable stories? The priest came while my cousin was visiting me in the hospital. There I was in a nightgown, pumping and receiving communion.

What was your nursing bra must-have? The Freya Pure Nursing T-Shirt Bra. I love that it’s a spacer bra, so it’s soft but still gives a great shape. I’ve been wearing it almost every day, and no one has noticed.

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Caitlin and Raegan

Caitlin, merchandise planner and mom of Raegan, 6 months
How long do you expect to nurse? I’m hoping until she’s one. She was exclusively breastfed until we recently introduced solids. Wouldn’t it be nice never to buy formula?

How did you make the decision? I went in with no expectations. I had heard it all, wonderful experiences to horror stories. Leading up to her birth I said, “We’re going to try. If it works, it works.”

What was the perception of breastfeeding at the time? Everyone had their own opinions and experiences: the lactation consultants, pediatricians, OBs, nurses. Those passionate experts were, at times, in conflict. I tried to take it all in, but it can drive you crazy. Ultimately, you have to go with your gut and do whatever’s best for you and baby—and what you decide works best today can change tomorrow. Let yourself be open and understanding, even with yourself. There’s no rulebook.

What has it been like? A struggle in the beginning, but we got over the hump. No one ever warned me of how excruciating milk coming in would be! Heads up, mamas, that is zero fun but, like everything else, this too shall pass.

Any memorable stories? I once pumped in a popular New York restaurant where there’s a single bathroom and no outlet! The manual pump took forever. When I finally emerged, there was a massive line outside the door. I’m pretty sure the next person to go in held their nose in case.

What’s your best advice? Don’t hesitate to use the lactation consultants. I couldn’t have done it without them. If they leave your room, don’t suffer in silence; call them back! A few days after we got home, I returned to the hospital for more lessons. They’re there to help.

What is your nursing bra must-have? At first, I lived in Cake Lingerie nursing tanks. When I started leaving the house again, I graduated to a real bra. I still love the Panache Eleanor. It’s a spacer so it’s light and perfect for summer. I like that it fits me great before and after feeding.

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Tracy and Dylan

Tracy, assistant buyer and mom of Amanda, 22, Brian, 19 and Dylan, 16
How long did you nurse? All three for a year each. Right around that first birthday, they seemed ready to be done.

How did you make the decision? I assumed I would use formula because that’s how my mom fed me. Breastfeeding wasn’t in fashion then, but when I gave birth, there was a movement to encourage it. The nurse asked if I wanted to try, and I said, “I guess so.” I thought I’d nurse for a few days. Before I knew it, it’d been a year. Other than deciding to become a mom, it was the best decision I ever made. My motivation was to provide nutrients and immunity. Little did I know it would also simplify life. How convenient to never wash bottles, prep formula or carry food—I was the food.

What was the perception of breastfeeding at the time? It was seeing a resurgence. Some friends didn’t understand why I was such a proponent, but it can be hard to comprehend something until you experience it. You can’t just convince someone to nurse: The mother has to want to, and the baby has to be able to. It doesn’t always work out, and that’s fine.

What was it like? It was like having a superpower: When the kids were cranky or sick, I could console them. I believe it had lasting positive effects on our relationships. Yes, there were times I struggled. I experienced painful mastitis, and it meant I was restricted—if my friends were going out, my response had to be, “Sorry, I have to be here to feed the baby.” Truth is, even though it may not always have felt like it then, the time flies, and I never took those moments for granted.

What did nursing do to you physically and emotionally? Nursing has positive effects on moms, too. I was more well endowed than ever. It helped my body return to its pre-pregnancy shape more quickly. The sensation of a letdown, when your baby is ready to feed, is indescribably powerful. Like feeling your baby kick during pregnancy, your milk coming in is like magic. It’s a miracle that your body can produce the food that your baby needs to survive—a literal lifeline.

Any memorable stories? Friends and family joke that certain topics are taboo around me. Breastfeeding used to be one of them. That changed quickly! I nursed walking through Disney World. I nursed in the middle of Yankee Stadium. If my babies were hungry, I fed them. No one ever had a negative word to say about it.

Where did you get support? The What to Expect series was my bible. If the baby woke up in the night, my husband would always go get him or her. By the time I had my third, my older kids would help. They loved it because they knew it meant we would get to sit and read. My mom was a huge proponent of my decision. My sister cheered me on and, having seen how great it was for me, went on to nurse my nephews.

What’s your best advice? 1) Stick with it, even if it’s tough in the beginning. It gets better, I promise. 2) Trust your gut. If your baby is hungry, don’t worry if you just fed her. Your body will tell you when it’s time, not the clock. 3) Enjoy the process. Savor each moment of snuggle time.

What was your nursing bra must-have? Even—and maybe especially—nursing moms deserve to feel sexy. I love the Le Mystère Sexy Mama Nursing Bra. It doesn’t look or feel like a typical nursing bra. Thankfully, they’ve come a long way!

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Amber and Houston

Amber, controller and mom of Houston, 2
How long did you nurse? Houston went 11 months. Then we started cow’s milk, and he was weaned at 14 months.

How did you make the decision? I knew before giving birth I wanted to try. My mom did it for the first year with her three children while working full-time and having to use a manual pump—still amazed by that—so I knew it was doable.

What was it like? The bond I felt with my son was the biggest pro. They were definitely some of the most content moments I’ve had with him. I didn’t expect to miss nursing as much as I did when it was over. The biggest con was that it could be isolating. I felt comfortable nursing in front of certain people, but pumping was something I never did around anyone and, as a full-time working mom, I had no choice. I would often end up pumping in my car in the parking lot.

What did nursing do to you physically and emotionally? The pounds came off quick. After a year, I was 10 pounds lighter than before I got pregnant. Your boobs aren’t the same, though! Emotionally, it helped keep my hormones in check. It could be that taking those pauses throughout the day was better for my emotional state then I realized at the time.

What was your nursing bra must-have? A lacy nursing bra can make you feel more confident, and a nursing tank is perfect for around the house.

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Jessica, photo retoucher and mom of Liam, 4
How long did you nurse? About a month, plus I pumped enough for another month. I stopped due to the pain. Nobody tells you it really hurts for some people. I also didn’t produce a lot of milk, despite trying everything to make it come in more.

How did you make the decision? I knew the nutrients in breastmilk were key to helping baby develop immunity. I initially looked forward to it, thinking I wanted to give him that opportunity. The benefits for us both seemed like a no-brainer. After my son was born, I got conflicting advice from different lactation nurses and groups. Don’t pump right away; pump as much as you can; eat this; don’t eat that. Despite trying to follow all the advice, I wasn’t producing enough. My son was always hungry and crying no matter what I did. He was also tongue-tied. I had no clue what that was and didn’t find out until later. I ended up using formula, and we were both much happier.

What was it like? It was painful, and I felt horrible that I wasn’t able to produce enough milk.

What’s your best advice? Don’t beat yourself up if you can’t do it. It’s a personal choice, and feeding formula is totally fine. If you can nurse without issues, more power to you, but don’t let anyone put you down for choosing not to breastfeed. It was amazing to me how much unsolicited advice I got from strangers telling me how to raise my child. Ignore it.

What was your nursing bra must-have? I preferred a bra like the Bravado Designs Body Silk Wire-Free Nursing Bra. It was comfortable to sleep in and no fuss to deal with.

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Justina and Madeleine

Justina, product merchandising coordinator and mom of Matthew, 6, and Madeleine, 3
How long did you nurse? Three months with my son, two months with my daughter.

How did you make the decision? You read up on all this stuff during your pregnancy, and phrases like “liquid gold” stick in your mind. It’s imparted into you to want to breastfeed and provide this little person with the most your body has to offer…for at least as long as you can bear it.

What was the perception of breastfeeding at the time? “Breast is best!” Apparently, it’s every maternity wing slogan.

What was it like? I was elated every time. With my son, it was about those moments he would never remember and I would never forget. With my daughter, it was more difficult. There were latch issues from day one, which I resolved by offering both breast and formula. I pumped more—exhausting! I thought I’d breastfeed for a year, but it wasn’t in me to juggle it with going back to work. That was the saddest part, the end of an era. I’m getting emotional just thinking about it!

What did nursing do to you physically and emotionally? I felt insanely empowered. In a way, I fell in love with my body for the first time. I admired it. This body went on a journey that will forever leave me feeling stronger than I ever felt in my youth. I sustained life. That’s a sobering thought!

Any memorable stories? Matthew started crying one night. When I turned the bottle upside-down to feed him, instead of taking the cap off, I unscrewed the whole top. Needless to say, there more screaming after that. Poor baby was gasping for breath as I soaked him in an entire bottle of milk.

What’s your best advice? Read up on it a little but really, rely on instinct. You’ll know what to do. And get some great pajamas because you’re about to be living in them!

What was your nursing bra must-have? Hands down the Anita Stretch Microfiber Nursing Bra! I know many women want wire-free foam, but I disagree. With a bra that fits properly—meaning the correct size no matter how ludicrous you think it may be—you’ll never feel the underwire. Too much foam makes nursing uncomfortable for you and the baby. Ultra-thin microfiber tucks away nicely, never disrupting your flow or baby’s meal. How would you like all that stuff leaning against your face while you’re eating?!

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Brandi, amBRAssador and mom of Elizabeth, 12, and Rebecca, 8
How long did you nurse? My first daughter only nursed for about a month. My younger daughter nursed for a year.

What was it like? My first didn’t take to nursing at all. I was devastated. She ended up formula-fed, which worked out just as well. Anyone could give her a bottle and, when she was old enough, she could hold it by herself. My younger was exclusively breastfed. The only downside was that she refused to take a bottle, so I was the only person who could feed her.

What did nursing do to you physically and emotionally? My breasts are definitely more shallow. It forced me to watch what I ate; certain foods might make her fussy. I dropped the weight a lot faster. Emotionally, I loved that time. Every feeding was a one-on-one experience that couldn’t be rushed. As amazing as it was, nursing was exhausting. I felt like she was always hungry and I was feeding her constantly.

Any memorable stories? A lot of nursing rooms are adjacent to restrooms. At one mall, the nursing area shared a wall with those jet-propelled hand dryers. Every time someone would dry their hands, my daughter would startle and stop eating! It was funny at first but got old fast.

Where did you get support? Unfortunately, I didn’t have a ton of people to turn to for advice. I had to figure a lot out for myself. Talk to family or friends who have breastfed. If you don’t have any, ask your hospital if they know of any breastfeeding groups. Online support groups are good, but find one with a moderator. Tired, hormonal moms can be a bit snippy.

What was your nursing bra must-have? I wish I had known about Bare Necessities! I was in a very ill-fitting nursing bra from a well-known maternity store. It was awful, and I would only wear it if I had to leave the house. I think the most versatile bras have many hook-and-eye closures. Cake Lingerie offers six columns! These should fit snugly on the middle set of hooks early in pregnancy. As your ribcage expands, you’ll be able to let that bra out; as everything moves back into place after the baby is born, you’ll be able to tighten the band again for proper support.

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Brooke and Eva

Brooke, editor and mom of Eva, 5 
How long did you nurse? We made it 11 months, when she dropped me like a bad habit. My goal was a year, so I call that a win.

How did you make the decision? I wanted to make a go of breastfeeding, but if it didn’t work out, I wasn’t going to beat myself up over it. (At least, that’s what I told myself.) Luckily, she took to it right away, which is still not to say it was easy. We tried every hold and latch and probably invented a few.

What was the perception of breastfeeding at the time? Eva was born in the organic, Earth Mama era. When my supply dipped around seven months, we started supplementing with formula—that’s what I was raised on, and I arguably turned out okay, so I felt pretty good about the combo. My friend Virginia Sole-Smith is writing a book called The Eating Instinct on this topic, and the philosophy she subscribes to is this: “Fed is best.”

What was it like? Hardest, best thing I’ve done. Nursing was a full-time job in addition to my actual full-time job, and it’s all on you. It felt nonstop, like I was always running a marathon. I was ravenously hungry and thirsty. She was literally draining the energy out of me! At a few months old, she started sleeping through the night but I was still up because my confused, engorged boobs were on fire. I just sat in the bathroom and cried. I had a love-hate relationship with the pump, I had plugged ducts, I bled. Despite how this all sounds, I enjoyed it. We were good at it, it was beautiful, it was a wonder my 30Cs could sustain her. But it was definitely a factor in my being one-and-done. I can’t imagine doing that for another year, and I also couldn’t imagine doing anything differently.

What did it do to you physically and emotionally? My boobs never looked bigger or better. At the end, though, they were smaller and softer. It was all-consuming: Was I doing it right? Was she getting enough? How could I produce more? The last thing I needed to be doing in my precious little free time was baking lactation cookies and trying to source Mother’s Milk Tea, but that’s what I did. It made me ruthlessly goal-oriented.

Any memorable stories? I’ve pumped in the passenger seat of a car driving slowly through Times Square. When weaning, I stuffed cabbage leaves in my bra to soothe the soreness. (It’s a thing.) Warm, wilting cabbage is rarely a good look. Or scent.

Where did you get support? Google at 4 AM, mostly. Skip the childbirth class; take a lactation class!

What was your nursing bra must-have? With so many size fluctuations, the last thing I wanted to deal with was figuring out bra size—this was before I knew the amBRAssadors could do it for me! So stretchy size smalls, like the Bravado Designs Ballet Wire-Free Nursing Bra, did the trick.

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The Nigerian Salad


If there is one food I revere, it is the Nigerian salad. It is one dish that can serve as a full meal or a side dish. It can also be made in a whole lot of  different ways with different types of vegetables. For more than a year, I have been aiming to making this salad, but the opportunity never came until we went to Massachusetts this past summer and I had to make it per request for a Summer birth day party. Even at that, I almost did not share this recipe. I didn’t think the picture was pretty enough, but listen, it’s the recipe that counts ?

Making “the Nigerian salad” takes patience. Making any type of good salad/food takes patience. Once thing that grinds my gears is eating chunks of vegetables in the name of eating a salad. In fact it turns me off. You don’t have to serve your guests or yourself, chunks of vegetables which look as big as yam or cassava tubers all with the aim of trying to eat a salad.

Growing up Nigerian and helping my mom with kitchen chores, she taught us how to cut our vegetables for salad either into tiny and long strips or into very small pieces. The work involved seems a bit tiring, but I tell you, the yumminess at the end is totally worth it. We made salad every holiday and I was never fond of salad duty. I liked meat duty; plenty of meat tasting for me.

The Nigerian salad is a staple; just like rice in Nigerian parties and most Nigerian homes. And to enjoy it’s health benefits, please do not drench it in salad dressing or Mayonnaise. Some people bath their salad in Heinz salad dressing. Well, delicious as it may seem, it defeats the purpose of your fit fam; if that’s your reason for making your bowl of salad. If not, carry go, drench away….kuku pour the salad dressing join body.

The Nigerian salad is like an Ankara fabric that can be sewn into different styles which can be easily over done; like some people with their bogus haute couture ? The same way the Nigerian salad can be made in different ways but become too much. Some people like to add corned beef or baked beans to their bowl. I’m not a fan of baked beans in my salad and I can do the occasional boiled potatoes or pasta. But for today’s recipe, I’ll be sharing a very easy version that I have come to like. This version to me is just clean and easy to make in a jiffy. With the Nigerian salad, less is more. No need to bother with any cans, cooking anything, draining anything or peeling anything.

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The Nigerian Salad
 
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Serves: 20
Ingredients
  • 1 small to medium sized cabbage(cut into very small pieces)
  • 2 medium sized cucumbers (wash and dice into small cubes)
  • 1 head curly leaf lettuce (wash and cut into small pieces….use half)
  • 2 tomatoes(remove seeds and dice into small cubes)
  • carrots (wash and cut into small pieces)
  • corn (whole kernel corn. About 2-3 corn on the cob or 1 medium sized can. If using the can, rinse the kernels and drain before using. You may use boiled or roasted corn on the cob. Simply shave the corn from the cob using a knife)
  • Green beans (rinse the beans, cut off the ends and cut into small pieces like the video attached to the post)
  • White vinegar 1-1½ tsp(optional)
  • 6-8 boiled eggs (make yours prettier than mine)
Instructions
  1. Wash the ingredients with water, prepare then add a little white vinegar(1 to 1½ tsps should be enough to distribute amongst the ingredients. Just sprinkle and shake each ingredient and layer up in a bowl. Enjoy with mayonnaise or Heinz salad dressing for full effect. You could use any salad dressing you prefer.

 

 

Drunken Suya Wings.


The Summer of 2018 can be said to be the Summer of our lives. I ate so much food and gained 10lbs; even my many trips to the beach couldn’t help my weight gain. And of all the foods we ate, my brother’s Suya wings were my favorite.

There is something that brings Nigerians together when you serve spicy meat and beer. There is Nkwobi and beer, Isi Ewu and beer, peppered meat and beer and the ultimate street snack, Suya and beer. And for this recipe, I literally combined both; hence the name “Drunken Suya wings.”

I love chicken wings and slightly sweet beers, so this was ultimately it for me this summer.

It’s the perfect appetizer and the perfect finger food for any kind of party.

My brother grilled some at a cook out and all were gone at the drop of a hat.

Knowing that Suya is inauthentic without being served in the signature news papers, these chicken wings can also be served news paper style; but to stay healthy, a bowl or parchment paper would do the same magic.

If you’re like me and you love to entertain and cook for your guests, this recipe is very easy to follow and by the end of your evening, you would have super satisfied guests and your chicken wings would be the talk of the whole continent….forget the town ?

One thing you must know before making this suya chicken, is to always use a sweet or almost sweet tasting beer. Attempting to use the likes of Guinness may cause your chicken to be slightly bitter to taste. So the milder/sweeter the beer, the better luck you have at making a batch of finger licking chicken. One with flavors etched in your memory; you’ll never forget how good it tastes in a hurry.

Drunken Suya Wings.
 
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  • 3lbs chicken wings
  • 1 Beer (Heineken)
  • 1-1½ cup water
  • 3 tbsps Yaji/suya pepper
  • 1tsp pepper flakes
  • 1tsp dry grounded pepper
  • 1tsp black pepper
  • 1tsp white pepper
  • ½ inch ginger root(optional)
  • Salt
  • One medium onion
  • 2 crushed garlic cloves
  • Bouillon as needed
  • Oil 1 tbsp
Instructions
  1. Wash chicken, pat dry and season with salt, bouillon(if using), dry pepper, black pepper, white pepper, garlic, ginger root, oil and onion. Let marinate for 12-24hours.
  2. After 12 hours, pour chicken in a pot, add water and beer and cook until soft; then drain.
  3. Pour the dry yaji and pepper flakes over the chicken, shake to distribute. Let it rest while you fire up and pre heat your grill or oven to 350 or 375 degrees. brush with a little oil and grill until crispy on the outside. Enjoy with Nigerian salad or a side of beer.

 

 

Freshness From Coast To Coast: Urban Plates Expands From California To Washington, D.C. Area

Freshness From Coast To Coast: Urban Plates Expands From California To Washington, D.C. Area

San Diego-based Restaurant Brand Taps D.C. for First East Coast Locations

 

TYSONS, Va. – July 16, 2018 – Urban Plates – the fine fast-casual restaurant concept that combines a passion for serving sustainably sourced, made-from scratch meals with the variety and vibrancy of a food marketplace – announces the much-anticipated expansion to the East Coast, opening their first ever D.C. location on Monday, July 16, at Tysons Galleria (2001 International Dr., McLean, Va.).

With an emphasis on high quality food at affordable prices, Urban Plates empowers guests to make equally wholesome and delicious food choices. Urban Plates carefully prepares 100% of menu items on-premise daily, thoughtfully sourcing every ingredient, including fresh local produce, grass-fed beef, free-range chicken and sustainably sourced seafood. UP Tysons Galleria will add a couple east coast twists to the brand’s seasonal inspired menu, including Roasted Old Bay Potatoes and fresh Harissa Corn on the Cob.

“In a market brimming with cultural and economic advancement, it only makes sense the food community has evolved alongside it, cultivating the opportunity for our brand to expand here,” said Urban Plates VP of Operations – East Coast, Gil Fornaris. “We’re excited to bring our ‘Culinary Theater’ to the region to forge one-on-one connections with our guests and neighbors, while showcasing each chef’s skill of creating not only a nourishing meal, but a memorable experience.”

Urban Plates’ vibrant, line-style layout presents engaging chefs at each station serving complete plates, hand-tossed salads, hand-carved sandwiches, hot and cold sides, composed bowls, and decadent desserts. Beverages include seasonal natural juice Replenishers, Kombucha on tap, regional craft beers and upon opening there will be an array of California wines. Once established in the location, Urban Plates will serve Appalachian wines, continuing in their dedication to ensuring each location is influenced by the environment around it.

Every Urban Plates location features warm, elevated, rustic indoor-outdoor dining spaces with comfortable seating and communal tables for couples, families and groups. Featuring, spacious dining areas embellished with vine-covered walls, Urban Plates crafts their locations to reflect the local communities from which their food is sourced. Take-out ordering and catering are available online and by phone, with local delivery via DoorDash and Uber Eats.

Menu prices start at: $9.95 for a Plated Meal with two sides and grilled rustic bread; $9.95 for Hand-Tossed Salads, $8.95 for Chef-Crafted Sandwiches; and $9.95 for Slow-Cooked Braise Bowls. Kids’ Meals start at $7.50.

The Tysons Galleria hours of operation are: Sunday-Thursday 11 a.m. – 9:30 p.m. and Friday-Saturday 11 a.m. – 10 p.m.

With each new restaurant opening, Urban Plates strives to support local communities through charitable contributions. UP Tysons Galleria has partnered with local non-profit Horton’s Kids and will provide 100% of donations collected during pre-opening events.

For additional information on Urban Plates, please visit www.urbanplates.com.

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Dambu Nama

With over 400 spoken languages, Nigeria is a country filled with people from different walks of life. Currently, Nigeria is going through a lot; the whole country seems to be in total chaos.
In the northern region, there is the group known as Boko haram slaughtering the citizens of Nigeria with reckless abandon. But through it all, struggles in continuing to find unity.
In the north and as well as in other regions of Nigeria, there are recipes that seem to have been extinct, but these days I see them being resurrected and even made better by different bloggers and chefs.
I wish for a day when the Nigerian people will live in tranquility. A day when we would bond all regions through food.
Today we are visiting northern Nigeria through the dish known as Dambu Nama.
Dambu Nama is a fried and shredded meat made with suya seasonings predominantly known to be a staple amongst the Northerners of Nigeria. Even as a northern delicacy, the rest of Nigeria’s citizens enjoy making this street snack. Even through all chaos we celebrate the north and their contributions to the country’s food chain.
A lot of Nigeria’s raw food ingredients come from the north. They are known to contribute more than 60% of the countries food supply. They grow rice, beans, yam, tomatoes, peppers, onions and even supply most parts of the country with beef; through the rearing of cows. Even with the economic and domestic crisis, the north has continued to thrive. And just like Suya, Dambu nama is making waves in Nigerian kitchens; even in the disapora. Good things still come out of the north.

Although with no measurements in place for this recipe, eyeballing will make you a great plate.

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  • Beef(trim fat)
  • red bell peppers(sliced)
  • tomatoes(sliced)
  • onion
  • Suya Spice( a blend of uda, ehuru(calabash nut meg), garlic, ginger, bouillon, and peanuts)
  • bouillon(optional)
  • salt to taste
  • coconut or peanut oil
Instructions
  1. Season the meat with all the ingredients except the suya powder and oil. Cook the meat in it’s own juices until almost dry; then add some water, check for seasonings and cook it until soft and the water is dry. Shred by using a mortar and pestle, a fork or a food processor. Add some suya spice, some Cameroon or Chili pepper, ginger powder(as needed); then check for seasonings and add a little bouillon as needed.
  2. Add 1-2tsps of oil to a pan and fry the shredded meat. For a healthier option, you could use the oven at 350 degrees instead of frying the meat.
  3. Enjoy ?

Recipe inspired by Chef Lola

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